There is a small part in Ch. 5 that speaks of a woman wearing her ring even when it was too small just so she would not be stereotyped as the “poor black single mother” taking advantage of government assistance. It never occurred to me to care what people think. I have been happily married for 5yrs, but I seldom wear my ring.
I don’t like to wash my hands wearing jewelry so I find myself not wearing rings much at all. I bought my husband’s ring one size too big and have yet to take it to be resized. I’m married to my husband in my heart and in the eyes of God. The ring and the court papers matter little to me. I wonder how many people have mistaken me for a poor unwed mother when I go shopping with my brood……
As far as giving men the wrong impression, I seldom have to turn a man down without my ring. I have to tell the men no thanks more often with it on when I get disgusting comments like “Is your husband married?” spewed at me. It is almost as if the brothers want to hit on a married woman with kids so they can avoid the commitment. If I look single I suppose they think I’m looking for them to be my next baby daddy! DRAMA!!!!!!!!
Ladies I appreciate your comments about men sharing. We will surely have to revisit this topic next Thursday.